Some of us are blessed with spouses-to-be who in turn are blessed with fabulous families. And let's face it, some of us aren't. One bride we know was asked to step aside so that the photographer could snap her brand new mum-in-law with what the she described as "MY family" - imagine, the bride standing folornly waiting for the family photo call to finish up!
When you're planning your wedding, we guess you've got two ways of dealing with any tension: give the rellies something to do (and embrace their efforts) or make it clear that contributions are not needed (or welcome!). We went route one, and both mums did us proud, happily baking our favour treats. Dads-in-law can get a bit pushed aside, so it might be nice to give him a job - transport, buttonhole collection or maybe toastmaster, if he's a confident speaker. And if you don't want to include your other half's siblingsin the bridal party, then ushers work really well, with female ushers a nice twist, while asking any family member for a reading is a great way of involving both sides in your big day.
The most important thing to bear in mind is that in-laws aren't just for weddings - you've got them for life! We all LOVE Dr Phil, he of Oprah fame with his soft tones and hardline advice, so it is over to the Doc for Dr Phil for his guidance on the in-law issue...
• No divided loyalties - you and your husband are family first
• Good fences make good neighbours - all about boundaries
• Conserve your energy - only so much 'you' to go around
• No-one will break - don't be afraid to talk about your limits
• The other woman in every man's life is his mother
• They won't shoot the messenger - if the message comes from their child!
• Get on the same page - with your other half, don't assume
• Don't diss - your other half's relationship with their parents is their own business
• Solve your relationship problems before you share - don't endlessly discuss them with family
• Your parents only know what you tell them - if all you tell them is problems, that's all they'll think you have
At Illustries, we're all about memories: remembering, celebrating and enjoying all those special times that can pass too quickly. We think memories deserve to be shared, and so we're sharing. Here, in our blog, we are creating a Library of Days. Our own as we build our business, and yours as you celebrate weddings, births, big life events - you name it, we'll celebrate it!
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